Tuesday, March 16, 2010

2009 that was!


A year and two months of no updation- I’m certainly not proud of the feat!

I’m not sure if there’s anyone out there to read this anymore. I have watched many a blog ebb away quietly and it was painful, especially if among those were my favourite ones. I want to sincerely apologise to my regular readers for not showing up with my ‘winged words’ for a long while. I’m not going to blame it all on the inevitable busyness of a homemaker cum working woman that I have become. Laziness got the better of me, and that remains the sole truth! Here’s an attempt to make up for the wait. No, I don’t promise an earth-shattering read ahead; I’ve always been cynical about radical come- backs.

So, where did I take you last? To the rugged cross that gives me hope for 2009? Well, the year has zoomed by and we are into a brand new one already, while I’m overwhelmed on realising that the hope has only grown bigger with time!

2009 was special- it was our first year of marriage!

We were warned by family, friends and well-wishers, at times, in vivid details, of the unpleasant side of marriage. “It’s not a bed of roses!” – Can you imagine, they still say it, irrespective of how wholly clichéd it sounds! “Just wait and see how long this ‘lovey doveyness’ would last”, remarked my well- meaning friend, on meeting us just two months after the wedding.

“To gel with another person with totally different tastes on practically everything in life is the biggest challenge”, “Men show their true colours only after wedding; you better be prepared for it”, “Don’t get carried away with all the sweetness in the beginning, life would only get harder after marriage”, “You know, sometimes you’d wish you were single”, “It’s not easy, marriage is suffering; take it in good spirit, though” “Smile all you can now, ‘cos there’s a lot of tears to handle after it”....this post would grow very long if I were to list all the precious pieces of unwarranted advice doled out to me, before and soon after wedding, in the hope that I would be better braced for this disaster called ‘marriage’!

And guess what, they were right- partially!

I did not find a bed of roses or a long-lasting ‘lovey doveyness’. To gel with a totally different person was a challenge and so was coping with his ‘true colours’. There were soiled clothes and dirty dishes, menus for breakfast, lunch and dinner (easier suggested than done), exasperating consultation with someone(husband) before you do anything, dealing with the new family...everything constituted the unpleasant side of marriage for me- just as they predicted!

Still, I was in for a surprise- a pleasant one!

They don’t tell you how many couples stay married; they only tell you how many are divorced. They don’t tell you how many remain in their jobs; they only tell you how many are fired. They don’t tell you how many kids are growing up in the fear of God; they only tell you how many go astray...they also don’t tell you how fantastic marriage is; they only tell you how hard it can get!

Believe me when I say it’s not all that bad as everyone makes it sound. My dear ladies, who are still waiting for the knight in shining armour, when somebody warns you “He’s got clay feet and the shine of his armour will get bleaker by the day ”, please retort, “ A clay footed knight in his worn out armour will do just fine for the equally flawed princess!” Bravehearts, by now you should know she’s got freckles behind that make-up, and that a freckle-free face will not make a trouble-free home; so don’t worry when someone snorts, “beauty is only skin-deep, beware!”

Marriage is a good thing and it will only do you good. Two is always better than one!

Sometimes, it takes marriage to know how stinking selfish you are and how repulsively proud! Sometimes, it takes to be married to learn to be more real than a smiley Christian on a Sunday morning. Sometimes, it takes two imperfect people to live together, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to be able to see others through God’s eyes! Now, tell me, isn’t the unpleasant side of marriage fleeting in comparison with its pleasant counterpart?

So, 2009 has been a fantastic year for me and it’s only gonna get better!

13 Comments:

Blogger Amit Philips said...

wow niceee dis is my first xperience wid da "winged words". very well written n verry true :)

lookin forward to readin more so keep writing :)

Friday, March 19, 2010  
Blogger MOVED - To Wordpress said...

Hey Sarah, it was good to stumble upon your blog when you visited mine, and I am glad that the first post you've written is about marriage. Thank you for being happy in your marriage and telling people like me (who are on the verge of getting married) that it is not as bad as others make it sound and that it requires some work, but it depends on the duo! I can understand why you haven't written in a while, well, getting used to being married can take up a lot of mindspace and time! Anyway, so since I hadn't read your blog before, I am glad that you're back now, and may be we can keep in touch!

Monday, March 22, 2010  
Blogger Savio Sebastian said...

hey you're back! nice! :) great picture and a great read! keep writing! :) nice to hear from you after such a long time divya! :)

Thursday, March 25, 2010  
Blogger Sarah said...

Thanks a ton, friends! I'm determined to do my part to keep the blog from dying :-)

Friday, March 26, 2010  
Blogger Who am I? said...

Hello..... Guess who's back!! Hey Sarah.. I got married in 2009 as well, and I'm glad we're discovering the same things.. Mine's been a rocky road since my husband had to be operated.. But life's never been sweeter as much as its been tough as well. :)

God bless! Keep up the good work!
Love,
Rini

Friday, March 26, 2010  
Blogger Sarah said...

Rini girl! Long time! Thanks for the updates. Hope both of u are doin well now. God bless!

Tuesday, April 06, 2010  
Blogger Dexter said...

wow that was a gr8 post! very well written...

its true.. v few ppl speak about how many stay married... !! i liked the whole bit abt freckles, and clay... :) u shud write more often...

Tuesday, April 06, 2010  
Blogger Sarah said...

Thanks, Dexter! :-)

Sunday, April 18, 2010  
Blogger The Scatterbrain said...

yay!!! You're back!! And I hope you're here to stay!

You know what?? I say the same thing to friends who are getting married. Its the 2nd best thing Ive done with my life!

people say the same thing about having kids too. When you're pregnant just waiting to have your baby out, its "oh wait till your labour pain starts" and then whwen you're finally over the difficult first three weeks they say things like "Your trials are jsut beginning"

truth is, Satna puts thoughts into our heads that shouldn't be there when our hope is in God!

Im so happy you're happy!!

Monday, April 19, 2010  
Blogger Sarah said...

Thanks, Deepa! :-) Your daughter's such a cutie pie!!!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010  
Blogger alisha said...

wow... amazing write... i love it dii!!

Monday, May 31, 2010  
Blogger Sarah said...

thanks, girl! :-)

Tuesday, June 08, 2010  
Blogger crackling embers said...

{They don’t tell you how many couples stay married; they only tell you how many are divorced. They don’t tell you how many remain in their jobs; they only tell you how many are fired. They don’t tell you how many kids are growing up in the fear of God; they only tell you how many go astray...they also don’t tell you how fantastic marriage is; they only tell you how hard it can get!}
.... iv read that over and over... these words are a reminder of thoughts etched in my heart... and it is wonderful to read it on ur blog... and i think about marriage... how God manages to put beauty in everything!!

Friday, July 16, 2010  

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